Olivia Wilde throws her ex-husband under the bus: I felt like my vagina died
This ^^ is a photo of Olivia Wilde and her ex-husband, Tao Ruspoli, the Italian prince she married when she was 18 years old. Tao and Olivia lived like boho hispters for years, and then Olivia started getting a real Hollywood profile, and suddenly she and Tao were over. They separated in February 2011, after which Olivia had a lot of praise for her ex. She also spent many months dating around and being seen with various eligible men (Ryan Gosling, Justin Timberlake, etc). Olivia finally settled on Jason Sudeikis at some point, and they’ve been inseparable ever since. This is the backstory for this Olivia Wilde interview/monologue. Apparently, Olivia has now taken to discussing her lack of a quality sex life during her marriage to Tao. Which really sucks for him, right? After all, HE MADE HER A PRINCESS.
Olivia Wilde’s ladyparts cannot tell a lie. At These Girls (an evening of monologues, hosted by Glamour mag) in NYC Monday night, Wilde discussed trying to fake happiness with her ex-husband Tao Ruspoli towards the end of their eight-year marriage (the couple divorced in 2011). Ultimately, she says, she should have just listened to her, well . . .
“I felt like my vagina died,” she shared (via Vulture) of her sex life with the filmmaker and Italian prince, 36. “Turned off. Lights out . . . you can lie to your relatives at Christmas dinner and tell them everything on the home front is just peachy. But you cannot lie to your vagina.”
Wilde, 28, has since moved on from the heartache surrounding her split from Ruspoli; now, the Butter star (and her you-know-what) are happier than ever with her love of nine months, Jason Sudeikis.
Explaining that she is currently “blissfully, hopefully, wildly in love,” the actress boasted that she and the Saturday Night Live standout “have sex like Kenyan marathon runners.”
After delivering her monologue, Wilde caught up with Vulture, where she elaborated on her personal relationship manifesto.
“Sometimes your vagina dies,” she explained. “Then you know it’s time to go. There’s no reason to sacrifice your womanhood and femininity for some sort of weird feeling of responsibility to something that may not be right. I feel like far too many women do that.”
Added Wilde, “[Men] are not allowed to be the only ones thinking with their genitals.”
Sudeikis sat in the audience to show his support during his girlfriend’s impassioned Monday night speech. (Recently, a source close to Wilde and the comedian, 37, told Us Weekly that the pair are “totally inseparable” and “living together now.”)
Although they’re going strong, marriage is something they’ll most likely hold off on, for now. (Sudeikis has also been married before; he divorced actress and screenwriter Kay Cannon in 2010).
“They’ve both been married, so they’ve already experienced that and know what it entails,” the insider shared. “It’s something for down the road.”
I understand the point she’s trying to make when she says men “are not allowed to be the only ones thinking with their genitals.” I get it. She’s saying that sex/intimacy is important in any relationship and in any healthy marriage, and that men shouldn’t be the only ones who get to use the “biological necessity” excuse. The problem? It’s certainly f—king deeper than that, isn’t it? Olivia is making it absurdly simplified – like, “I didn’t have much of a sex life with him, but I have a great sex life with my new guy, so it was obviously my ex’s problem.” It might very well have been Tao’s problem. But very rarely is it so cut-and-dry. It feels like Olivia is just throwing her ex and his (malfunctioning?) dong under the bus and declaring victory for her vadge. What about self-reflection and communication? Or should we just applaud her for getting out of a marriage because of sex? Eh. How would we feel if a man had said this? Like, a dude comes out and says that his ex-wife made him feel like his dong had died, and he wasn’t going stick with a woman if he couldn’t get his rocks off? I feel like the reaction would be very different.
Photos courtesy of WENN, Fame/Flynet.
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